tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post4264400781271504186..comments2023-05-08T03:28:57.141-04:00Comments on * Bikbik and Roro *: on sensitivity, and the lack thereofBIKBIK AND ROROhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06688260142838394342noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-2916504855866340242013-05-18T02:48:36.786-04:002013-05-18T02:48:36.786-04:00OMG Jan, I am hooked on Joel Osteen, cheers for me...OMG Jan, I am hooked on Joel Osteen, cheers for mentioning him, it brought a smile to my face. wonderful and delightful post. My MIL is great but can very well be on the other spectrum of high maintenance, even though she is in Germany I am in London!the older I get the less sensitive I have become so my spectrum ranges between 2 and 4 for external issues. much loveCHELSEA ST PIERREhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04557064670076394138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-3567555933460695952013-05-11T23:47:38.653-04:002013-05-11T23:47:38.653-04:00What a well thought out, philosophical post! You&#...What a well thought out, philosophical post! You've given me plenty to think about. That's what we all need to do more of think, reflect and learn :)Rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01341233630137969987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-49702709088991003792013-05-11T14:31:04.398-04:002013-05-11T14:31:04.398-04:00Whoo, you've just said a mouthful. This was a...Whoo, you've just said a mouthful. This was a very interesting post. I don't think I've ever met anyone quite like your mother-in-law. I'm definitely not like her. <br /><br />I think that I'm a sensitive person to a degree. No, certain things don't bother me that tend to bother those around me (i.e. work drama or other typical craziness), but I know that I still get my feelings hurt whether I say something or not. Sometimes I have to do a type of "self-talk" to determine if I got my feelings hurt because my hormones were crazy that day, or because the truth can sometimes be very painful, or if the person talking is just a very straight-forward/direct person and meant no harm, or if the person talking meant to hurt me. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I don't know what all of this makes me. LOLLibbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14071016583187622819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-38249001888565141492013-05-11T09:24:35.741-04:002013-05-11T09:24:35.741-04:00I have gotten much less sensitive with age...in my...I have gotten much less sensitive with age...in my late teens and early 20s I was oversentitive. I have since mellowed out a great deal :)Optimistic Existentialisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11507986337866049924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-19150171379585547982013-05-10T19:36:17.793-04:002013-05-10T19:36:17.793-04:00I use to be very sensitive, but now, not so much. ...I use to be very sensitive, but now, not so much. I try to understand where the other person is coming from and react in a peaceful matter, if I can. I feel a lot of times, people get over hyper or sensitive, because they want attention. I'd rather walk away and smile ;o) Take Care ;o)Magic Love Crowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14133368208464734546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-40454986548476895582013-05-10T12:24:16.310-04:002013-05-10T12:24:16.310-04:00So B&R ~ you're Jan! I always like to use...So B&R ~ you're Jan! I always like to use peoples' names! What a beautiful and thought-provoking post!<br />I used to be a walking raw nerve ~ so this post was fascinating. Life is so much easier when you ease through it like your mother-in-law. I never know what to expect from your posts: from Wiggles to beautiful crafts to articulate, intelligent essays! Kuddos to you! Take care.Fundy Bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02132147630106183853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-88047292626140480212013-05-10T03:16:05.646-04:002013-05-10T03:16:05.646-04:00Great post...I really enjoyed this. My mother-in-l...Great post...I really enjoyed this. My mother-in-law can really drive me crazy. She has a comment for everything, which use to really stress me out and I would be stressed for days from it, but I just had to say enough. And told her off, I just had to stop being sensitive - which I wasn't that much, but if I held what I was feeling in for too long, I would have surely become that way. I think we just need to get things out and talk about them and then you won't be so sensitive about it. Super great post. I hope you have a great weekend xThe Dainty Dolls Househttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05165942777053327479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-89991750832208112512013-05-09T13:50:29.460-04:002013-05-09T13:50:29.460-04:00Dear Jan - I so enjoyed this post...you mentioned ...Dear Jan - I so enjoyed this post...you mentioned two ministers that I watch every week before I go to my own church service...Joel Osteen and Andy Stanley. As for overly sensitive people - they are extremely difficult to deal with and like Martha above I try not to spend too much time with them. Your mother in law sounds like a real sweetie...glad you have a great relationship with her. Loved reading all your thoughts and I know you are a wonderful mom. Take care and have a great week-end (sorry for the long comments)! Debbie Nolanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11168646638438558551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-14971892711502252372013-05-09T13:31:14.958-04:002013-05-09T13:31:14.958-04:00Very interesting about Emotional Intelligence and ...Very interesting about Emotional Intelligence and how it is shaped. I tend to be more on the senstive side and often wish that others would be as considerate of me as I am of them but given my health issues lately, I've been loosening up abit and I think it's been a good thing.<br /><br />Thanks to you and Becky for all your kindess and support! I'm still hanging in there.<br /><br />Rowena @ <a href="http://rolalaloves.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">rolala loves</a>Rowena @ rolala loveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10139269533873270419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-1128199283859767452013-05-09T10:07:55.757-04:002013-05-09T10:07:55.757-04:00What a great read Janice! It is interesting to lea...What a great read Janice! It is interesting to learn about personalities because it makes up for tolerant of others. Since we have all grown up differently and experienced things in various ways, it affects our sensitivity scale. Over the years I have learned to control my sensitivity to become more calm and understanding of those around me. Always a work in progress!Miss Val's Creationshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11200441034267532187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-72194906795521585742013-05-09T09:48:42.096-04:002013-05-09T09:48:42.096-04:00i do not have a lot to add to this discussion, oth...i do not have a lot to add to this discussion, other than i know this post will be rolling around in my head all day. it was important for you to write and research and for us all to read and contemplate. i tend to be silently sensitive until i have been pushed too far. and in my personal experience, i am finding as people age, they push too far too often. Christine Altmillerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12097437105566740407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-40776623198774000022013-05-09T09:14:16.704-04:002013-05-09T09:14:16.704-04:00Such a well-thought out post ... and could not agr...Such a well-thought out post ... and could not agree more. I have seen my share of passive aggressive behavior, which I find to be so exhausting and frankly unnecessary roughness. But the part that really got me going was your discussion on parents who take it out on their children is beyond my tolerance. You, as their parent, are responsible for their well being and who they become. Taking things out on them is like a bully in a school yard. I always wonder why it is that you need a license to drive a car, get married, practice law ... but anyone can have a child. Perhaps classes should be required.AntiquityTravelershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09448273777508831649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-70782796507580622502013-05-09T06:24:47.221-04:002013-05-09T06:24:47.221-04:00I love how laid back your mother-in-law is. She se...I love how laid back your mother-in-law is. She seems like a well-balanced, happy woman. And you are fortunate to have such a good relationship with her.<br /><br />I find high maintenance individuals very exhausting, in every which way, and avoid them as much as possible. Or limit my contact with them. When I was younger, it was easier to make me feel guilty, or manipulate me. Over the years, I have grown stronger, more confident, and I do not allow myself to be emotionally blackmailed or manipulated. Joel Osteen is absolutely right when he says that catering to the needs of these types of people is just feeding their dysfunction. And walking on eggshells around these overly-sensitive people is certainly not appealing.<br /><br />I was much more sensitive when I was a teen, but I outgrew that. Being more laid back and not taking everything personally makes life much more enjoyable. Who needs all the drama, anyway?Plowing Through Life (Martha)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06547318824997712369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-7463954740126214682013-05-09T02:45:41.189-04:002013-05-09T02:45:41.189-04:00Wow! Does your mother in law have a key to your ho...Wow! Does your mother in law have a key to your house? There's nothing wrong with that, but clearly if she felt you guys were home she could've called before entering your home. I love Joel Osteen! I've listened to him for years. His messages always penetrate my soul. There's so many individuals that need love in this word. It's really sad to see how they end up when they're not. I've dealt with so many selfish people that it's not even funny. They don't care about your feelings, only themselves. I just shake my head. It's sad. A Very Sweet Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00952918199561874968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-87532232307075214792013-05-09T01:22:51.962-04:002013-05-09T01:22:51.962-04:00Very powerful Jan.
I have always been sensitive b...Very powerful Jan.<br /><br />I have always been sensitive but hope that, over time, I've learned to use it for others rather than in seeking out perfection or taking umbrage over imagined slights. <br /><br />My daughter once (and not so very long ago, either) told me that she trusted me more than anyone else she knew because, as she said, "your lessons might have stung but they were always honest and to help me, and you trusted me to understand them." These are words I treasure in my heart.The Crankyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11482237436135513483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-36013758323802058602013-05-09T00:58:22.937-04:002013-05-09T00:58:22.937-04:00Very interesting, Jan. I used to be too sensitive ...Very interesting, Jan. I used to be too sensitive and over-react badly when I was younger. It can be a very destructive cycle to get into,because you expect impossibly high standards of perfect behaviour from those close to you. Thankfully, I think I grew out of it as I just became happier myself and because I gained some emotional maturity. Now, I would say that I'm still sensitive but not to the point where it's not beneficial. I've become much more relaxed over the years and feel better for it.Sulky Kittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04152258940667581336noreply@blogger.com