tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post8147485183564807604..comments2023-05-08T03:28:57.141-04:00Comments on * Bikbik and Roro *: on nurturing natureBIKBIK AND ROROhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06688260142838394342noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-11086012199426351452012-10-31T23:16:20.376-04:002012-10-31T23:16:20.376-04:00I read this and re-read this. I agree with you, t...I read this and re-read this. I agree with you, totally, yet I must admit I have been wrestling with this very issue. I have given my life (happily) to raising 4 children and it pains me that anyone could think that kids have an "auto-pilot" switch. Still, though I want to think I did things right, one of my children is having a tough time growing up. I want to think I am making a difference. I'm trusting God that is the case...Your thoughts are so well written. I enjoy reading you!Sweet Teahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15614958513434632328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-65752885198887994672012-10-29T19:18:44.459-04:002012-10-29T19:18:44.459-04:00Such a well-written post, Janice! Yes, I certainly...Such a well-written post, Janice! Yes, I certainly agree that it is absurd for anyone to suggest that it doesn't matter what we do as parents because behavior is completely determined by genes. I think there is no work more important (or difficult!) than our job as parents. That being said, I have seen over and over (and in my own family of origin) that even children who are deeply loved and cared for and responsibly raised can go astray. Sometimes, the parents are not to blame.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12575140898505901920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-1006719141774580252012-10-28T13:34:03.598-04:002012-10-28T13:34:03.598-04:00So much food for thought here and interesting fres...So much food for thought here and interesting fresh take. I can't agree more that home provides more than given credit for. Without even being aware of it, I felt instinctively how to mother because of the mother and grandmother I had. Family is tremendously powerful, although peers and culture are written, in the mainstream, about more often.<br /><br />I am sorry that I found this on a Sunday night, as we're rounding down for the night. Sweeping generalizations are worth examining but, I agree, too that I just don't like labels. willowdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09596307925293450772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-52796084063094378622012-10-28T11:35:43.197-04:002012-10-28T11:35:43.197-04:00yez yez "I feel a book coming on!" too. ...yez yez "I feel a book coming on!" too. when? when? as an added push, u've already got a captive readership!<br />Pizziriccohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798716439713440785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-89825991546596536332012-10-27T14:43:09.470-04:002012-10-27T14:43:09.470-04:00i think this post is so true! the way you were tre...i think this post is so true! the way you were treated and raised at home deeply affects what kind of person you are! great post. i enjoyed reading it :)<br /><br />happyleeliving.blogspot.comMarsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08827048680060768817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-38076947270037251242012-10-27T13:06:24.091-04:002012-10-27T13:06:24.091-04:00Very interesting and well written post, Janice. My...Very interesting and well written post, Janice. My first degree is in psychology and so I always roll my eyes when somebody comes out with some piece of hokum relating to the nature/nurture debate. Every single person's experience is different, both as a parent and as a child. I don't think that any one method of parenting is either right or perfect. There are degrees of success and failure within every parent-child dynamic, depending on your perspective. Sulky Kittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04152258940667581336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-70256277568245683662012-10-27T09:14:08.801-04:002012-10-27T09:14:08.801-04:00I love this post; it is so well written! You have ...I love this post; it is so well written! You have put so much thought into it, and I found myself nodding my head as I kept reading. I do believe that we are born with certain traits, but I also believe strongly that the home base plays a huge fundamental role in how we turn out. As a parent, I have a responsibility in how my children turn out simply by the way I raise them and the things I teach them. And I agree completely that humans are very complex and much too diverse to have one set of principles applied to them.Plowing Through Life (Martha)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06547318824997712369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-52118502053279718362012-10-27T05:57:14.413-04:002012-10-27T05:57:14.413-04:00Oh! And I forgot to say how much I love the Klimt ...Oh! And I forgot to say how much I love the Klimt painting to go with this post. Do you remember that I stayed in the Klimt room at the Davinci Hotel in June?Kay G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07228498846814735537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-57140764702592032802012-10-27T05:55:05.762-04:002012-10-27T05:55:05.762-04:00Very well written. Having said that, I really do f...Very well written. Having said that, I really do feel sorry for those parents who having raised their children with all the love and support they can possibly give, still have children who turn to drugs or crime after being influenced by their peers.<br />Thanks again for a well=thought out post.Kay G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07228498846814735537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-78878915596134887562012-10-27T01:24:45.118-04:002012-10-27T01:24:45.118-04:00well written, well presented, well said!!! point t...well written, well presented, well said!!! point taken. I am a mother of 2 little girls and take great pride in raising them. It is a full time job, which I enjoy with great passion. I am raising them to be responsible, compassionate adults who will be an asset to our society...I cannot see how this is JUST genetics! I love the way you write...I feel a book coming on!love Chelsea.CHELSEA ST PIERREhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04557064670076394138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7612138137531680575.post-20059136199379694102012-10-27T01:02:20.909-04:002012-10-27T01:02:20.909-04:00Your post is both profound and thoughtful. The who...Your post is both profound and thoughtful. The whole nature vs. nurture debate has been around for a long time. Perhaps it's simplistic of me but I've always viewed it as:<br /><br />Nature is equivalent to a carpenter's tools. The basic elements to put together a life.<br /><br />Nurture, on the other hand, is the instruction and learning which enables you to use those tools well rather than merely destructively.The Crankyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11482237436135513483noreply@blogger.com